If I were my mother, I would tell myself…

eAdarsha.com Reporter
May 18, 2021

Trisha Shrestha, There is nothing that can come close to the love that a mother feels for her children. Women are inherently good mothers. Every Mother always makes sure that their children are safe and happy throughout their life. If I have learned anything it is that mothers always have solid advice, the best ideas and the most reasonable solutions. And if you’re smart you would listen. However, sometimes your mom can’t be there to say the right thing at the right moment. It is at that time you have to channel your inner mom voice and think What would my mom say? In company with that there might be something that always annoys you when your mother says something which is totally irrelevant so sometime you have to improvise on your own.

I’ll encourage my child to pursue his/her dreams or passion and be independent rather forcing them on a highly rewarding job like doctor, engineer, accountant.

One thing that every mom has in common is that they tell their children to sleep early, finish your work or your responsibility, not to do stupid things, drink water, don’t use your phone or laptop so much, tell that we look great even if we look awful which is pretty usual things but I think if I were my mother I’ll take a different approach I’ll let my children know that it is okay to sleep late if you are a night owl doing something productive because some people can perform better at night so we shouldn’t force everyone to sleep early but ill remind them that proper 7-8 hours of sleep is essential so they should manage their time properly. I’ll encourage my child not to be afraid of failure and its good to fail so we can learn from our failures. I’ll encourage my child to pursue his/her dreams or passion and be independent rather forcing them on a highly rewarding job like doctor, engineer, accountant.

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The thing that I don’t like about Nepalese society is it’s social and irrelevant believes. These are neither scientific nor general truths. Yet, they are noted in our culture and followed in our society blindly. It is the discriminatory belief of our society which only hinders the overall development of the entire nation. These kind of believes can be stored unconsciously in our mind and can regulate our thinking and decision-making patterns. They do not serve any practical purpose. they are usually passed on to the younger generation to grow inhibition in people and mostly girls are the victim of these believes.

According to a survey, women spend 10 years of their lives on their periods accompanied by some level of physical pain but woman in Nepal additionally face numerous restrictions imposed by their families during mensuration which is totally irrelevant in this modern era. Restrictions in the areas of food, touch, mobility, and participation. I do face this kind of restrictions like I am not allowed to enter a kitchen, a temple, or go to any social gathering or allowed to touch my father, brother or any other male member or a pregnant women or children below five years.

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Due to misconceptions about religion (Hinduism), it is believed that God will curse a menstruating woman who uses river water or a public tap, or touches a god statue, religious books, flowers or cows, which are considered holy in Hinduism. So if I were my mother I would tell myself that is it okay to touch your loved ones ,go to kitchen or a temple or anywhere maintaining a proper hygiene. It is okay to touch and pray the gods because even the goddess Kali, Laxmi, Parwati are women yet we pray them whole year no matter what. So how can you be impure ? I will not let my child believe that she is impure or physically weaker than anyone just because of these natural monthly cycles. I will not force my child to believe that a black cat crossing the road is ill- ominous or seeing people carrying an empty vessel is a bad luck.

Nails shouldn’t be trimmed after the dark or you shouldn’t comb your hair at night. Some of them maybe relevant in the past but are totally irrelevant in the present context and linking them to a bad luck is totally beside the point. Rather than filling my child’s mind with this believes I will focus on teaching them the important life lessons which will be helpful for being a great man or women in their future. ill teach them about faith, irony, gratitude, patience, to be flexible, to take care of their health, importance of time and planning ahead not to be afraid of failures, not to get worried from other people’s opinions, to be thankful in life etc.

A mother’s greatness is so much that a one cannot even understand. Mothers are the building blocks they not only shape the future of their child but the whole generation. She is the ultimate source of happiness for a child. Her contributions are certainly too great to imagine. Above all, her love is pure and innocent. To find a Mother who does not love is probably an impossible task.

Trisha is BBA student at Kathmandu University School of Management.